How would you describe
the situation of someone, who says often ‘I can do it’ but will never take a
step? What about that person you confidently said to “you can do it” but failed
to move an inch? I have always wanted to air my view about fear but held back
on the notion that there is so much to discuss about it. Perhaps, you want to
say, I was overpowered by the fear of bulkiness and as a result had to wait
till now? You are absolutely right! From that, we can infer that the
first step to conquering fear is to break the barrier of idleness; bulkiness;
procrastination or whatever could be posing itself as an excuse; Start it! Do
it!
Have
you ever thought of how lengthy phobia list is? Every entity wouldn’t have been
given a phobia tag if someone out there is not afraid of it. Once
your fear for anything becomes established, such a thing becomes your boss.
Phobia founds itself on uncertainty; the particular object that scares them
will always do because they doubt it favoring them. Does it not marvel and
inspire you; the fear of God draws you closer to Him, the fear of anything aside from
God, distances you from it. …Me (Allah) alone should you fear. [Surah
Al-Baqarah (2):41].
An
anthophobic individual will never move close to where flowers are. You may be
sued if you bring cats close to an ailurophobic individual. Ed’s health tips
writes in his piece about how to cure phobia; “what is needed is to convince the body-mind that there is no threat
here” it might take a while, yet, you can always choose bravery over fear.
I was walking on the
street with my mum few years ago, a dog just came out from nowhere, barking
furiously from behind and coming towards our direction. If I were alone, that
day would have been the day I feared and dreaded most. As the dog barked
continuously, you know what my mum did, she was strictly telling me, ‘don’t
run’. She held my hands and we continued walking and stopped intermittently.
The dog kept on barking right behind us but we acted as though we didn’t fear
it, even with my heart in my mouth. We maintained our fearless position until
its master showed up. That is the spirit! You know
what could have happened if we had taken to our heels? You might need someone
to serve the capacity my mum served that morning; someone to calm you down and
assure you there is no cause for alarm even when you see the red light blink.
My exegesis for Eleanor
Roosevelt saying, “do one thing every day
that scares you” is; enslave that thing, which has successfully
enslaved a chunk of the populace, fear! If you see fear as a slave, you
have automatically gotten rid of its stagnancy-inducing venom. Interestingly,
many people see fear as an excuse, they engage it as a tool for deceit to gain
attention or be treated delicately. Even with an umbrella when it drizzles,
they reiterate, “I’m afraid I will get wet”. They keep expressing fear even at
its absence that they end up its slave. Mother of Radioactivity, Marie Curie
says, “Nothing in life is to be feared,
it is only to be understood”. Go after
your dream, aim for its peak! Beat all expectations! You have nothing to lose if you
fear nothing. “We must act in
spite of fear not because of it”- Benjamin Disraeli.
How bizarre it sounds
when someone declares fear for death. What of HE who created death; what a
misplacement of obligation! At this juncture, please, let it sink that the
chief sponsor of fear is doubt. You could feel a ting of uncertainty,
which could breed fear. It’s okay. “The
brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear”-
Nelson Mandela.
It
should be bore in mind that lots of great minds died with their greatness,
leaving nothing for anyone to gain from. Uncountable creativity and skills is
decaying underground with its possessor, who would have also loved to share but
couldn’t due to the fear of one thing or the other. Some of them were afraid of
rejections of their ideas but today, they and their ideas are no more, some
fear critiques of their works might mediate heart attack and send them to early
grave. They didn’t get the critique they feared could lead to death, yet they
still died.
Fear
should not restrain you! Don’t let it hold you down; free yourself from its
shackles! Factually, only the fear of God is conscience-friendly and mind
soothing, the fear of anything aside Him is like a stab on conscience and
an analgesic-resistant pain in the system. You keep asking yourself; “why am I
doing this to myself?” Bid fear a farewell; why are you afraid of what you
could bring under you?
“What we aim at shall
become ours if we believe and don’t cease to try harder.”
Have a beautiful week!
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nice writeup
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